Infidelity can also be said to be having an affair, being unfaithful, adultery, cheating and many more things... It's not a very nice thing and it doesn't really come up in everyday conversation. If it does come up in conversation, it's more likely to be gossip that someone has cheated on someone that they know. Unfortunately, I know many people that have cheated on their wives/husbands, partners, girlfriend/boyfriends. I don't understand why people do it - obviously if they are unhappy in their relationship then it will lead them to commit adultery but some people will be totally happy with their partner and yet they still do it. Why? I just think it's selfish, unfair and pathetic. These suggestions came up during the lecture of what counts as infidelity....
So being in a relationship and:
- Having an affair?
Yes, definitely! You're doing wrong and going behind your partners back.
- Having a one night stand with someone else?
Yes, you've been unfaithful and the person has a right to know.
- Flirting with other people?
Maybe, but only if it's for a bit of fun and if you're not going to take it any further than a bit of flirting.
- Having a virtual (online) relationship with another?
I think this would count as infidelity because you're obviously having another relationship online, even if you haven't seen them in person. It's practically the same thing!
- Lusting after people?
I think this is just like flirting, but slightly different. It's just like fancying a celebrity but it will never happen (unfortunately)
- Dreaming of having sex with other people?
I don't think this could be classed as infidelity, however, if you carry on having dream about other people then it could become a problem and you;re obviously thinking about cheating, unconsciously.
- Watching porn?
No. They say that watching porn is healthy for your relationship, but if you do it on your own, I still don;t see a problem with it. It's natural.
- Masturbating?
Again, this is totally natural and you can always involve your partner. But I think if you're thinking about someone else whilst doing it, then it could lead to some sort of infidelity.
I think people cheat on their partners because they are either bored of their relationship and want something new, therefore they are selfish and go behind their partners backs. However, I think that some people only do it for the feeling of risk and rebelliation. If they were completely honest about having an affair, then they wouldn't enjoy it as much because they know that they aren't going to get caught. Also, the main reason why people might cheat is because they are having problems in their relationship. “Cheaters might have insecurities within themselves and being able to have more than one partner can be a way to boost their self-esteem”
I think you have pretty much covered all of the reasons why people cheat on their partners. There are also some very valid opinions, the link is very interesting and informative, maybe you could have added a few well known people who have cheated into this as infidelity has been a big thing in the news recently what with Ashley Cole and John Terry cheating on there wives. But otherwise a good piece of writing.
ReplyDeleteI think that some people couldn't contain their inner pleasures that is why they choose to look for another partner but they must learn on How To Cheat And Get Away With It so as to avoid problems and hurting the people they really love.
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